Are You the Reason You Can't Trust?

        What you doing? Where you going? Who is she? Why didn’t you call me back? So many questions. Have you found yourself asking these questions to your partner like a broken record? Sometimes ladies, we can be victims of holding on to the past when it is way overdue to let go. You may not realize it but sometimes if you have a lack of trust for someone it most likely has something to do with your past experiences, which may or may not have been with them. It’s one thing to remain in a relationship with someone who previously broke your trust leading you to question everything they do, but it’s another when you’re with someone who hasn’t done anything to break your trust in them yet you’re continuously treating them like a suspect. Staying with someone who did you wrong and you do not trust is bad in itself and is a whole other topic of discussion, but to be with someone who hasn’t done anything to you yet remains under the microscope just isn’t fair.

        This is a case of you causing your own trust issues. If you become too worried about the emotional distress you’ve experienced in the past, you are putting yourself at risk of destroying any type of trust that you and your partner have built in the relationship. Because, honestly, how long will someone put up with feeling like the “bad guy” when they’ve done no wrong? When you find yourself questioning everything your partner does, try your best to do away with comparing them to your past experiences and focus on the here and now. No one said to be naïve but you must also learn when the little voice inside is speaking from an instinct or insecurity. Trust issues are serious barriers to a healthy relationship, so don’t let them ruin yours.